Good Pictures, Bad Pictures…Moms Talk Porn

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One of the best resources I have found to teach your kids about the dangers of pornography is

the book Good Pictures Bad Pictures, by Kristen A. Jenson M.A.   You read the book with your kiddos when they are between 6-8 yrs. and then continue to pull it out regularly. Shocking, that we have to start that young but that’s the reality. Most kids are exposed between 8-11 years old.  I taught my kids to look both ways when they cross the street.  I did not wait until they were hit by a car to teach them that rule.  I was pro-active.  Teach your kids about porn before they get exposed so that they know what to do when they do get exposed.  You can link to Good Pictures, Bad Pictures off my print resource page.

In a nutshell, the book explains how human beings have two parts of their brain: a feeling part and a thinking part.   The feeling part includes our emotions like anger, happiness; but it’s also the part of our brain that tells us when we feel hungry, thirsty, tired, sleepy, full, etc.  The feeling part of our brain tells us to eat more cake and ice cream even when we have had enough.  It might tell us to take out revenge on our little brother or eat all of our Halloween candy in one day.  Our feeling brain rewards us by releasing chemicals that make us feel good.  When we see a bad picture, like pornography, it can make our feeling brain feel even better by releasing chemicals (mostly dopamine). This can happen with other addictions too like food, alcohol, smoking, but especially pornography.  Pornography “feeds” the feeling part of our brains and can actually alter how chemicals are released.  The thinking part of our brain is the part which has logic, self control, the ability to memorize and learn facts, and discernment just to name a few.  The thinking part of our brains must overcome the feeling part.  For example, the feeling part might say, “Eat more cake and ice cream.” But the thinking part must be logical and say, “No, you already had two servings; push away from the table.”  The feeling part of your brain might say, “Hit your little brother since he hit you first.” The thinking part must take charge and admonish, “No, you are older, wiser and have self-control. Walk away.”  The feeling part might say, “Look at these pictures of people who are naked.” The thinking part must reprove, “No, these pictures are not edifying, bounce your eyes, close the device, and walk away.”  You get the picture (no pun intended).   Teach your kids that their thinking brain must learn to be in-charge of their feeling brain because there will be loads of times when we don’t feel like doing things (like chores, dishes, laundry) and times when we feel like doing something that we shouldn’t do.  Speaking of dishes, laundry, and chores…time to get my thinking brain in gear!  Grab a copy of the book. Better yet, grab a few and give them away as gifts!

Posted by Amy in Pornography

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