I think telling stories is a fantastic way to introduce a topic to your kids. When it comes time to talk about periods, tell your daughter your experiences and your first period. Talk about if you were an early bloomer or late bloomer and how you felt about it. Tell funny stories about yourself and your friends and any embarrassing moments. Use this conversation as a time to grow closer to your girl. This conversation needs to happen about 5th or 6th grade. If your kids are in public school, they have “the talk” in 5th grade and I think you should beat the school and have it first with your kids. Once your daughter hits 100 pounds, her menstrual cycle is on its way. So get ready! The development of pubic hair is another sign that her period is around the corner. If your daughter is an athlete or very thin, her period may be delayed due to lack of body fat. Genetics also plays into the process. If you were an early bloomer, she may be too. Remember, your husband’s genes play into the process as well.
Here is your lingo…Every month our body gives us a chance to have a baby. The lining of our uterus gets real thick with blood and nutrients for the baby. If there is no baby, then the blood and nutrients have to come out. The reason why this is called the menstrual cycle is because like a circle, periods never end!! Ha! Not really. It’s a cycle because it happens monthly (mensus means month). Before a period occurs, ovulation happens first. Ovulation is the process by which an ovary drops an egg into a fallopian tube. You have two ovaries which look like strawberries. Ovaries contain the female seed called egg. Your ovaries alternate each month dropping an egg into the corresponding fallopian tube. It takes the egg about 3 days to travel to the uterus and get expelled. You can’t feel your egg fall out because it’s microscopic. About 14 days after you ovulate, your period begins. Unfortunately, periods last 3-5 days and can last up to 7 days for some women. They can be heavy and include cramps. Yuck! Explain the difference between pads and tampons (cardboard vs. plastic). Demonstrate how they work. She does Not need to see you put one in your body, but you need to show her how to use one. Pretend you start your period on June 1st. About 14 days later, you would ovulate and then 14 days after that, your period begins again. That’s how the 28 day cycle occurs. If you want to talk about pregnancy then, do it, or wait and have another conversation.
I ran into some gals at church today, and they asked what my next post would be and I told them that is would be on periods. So right there in church, we talked about periods. And why not, they are part of God’s design in a girl’s body. Each gal admitted that their moms didn’t teach them about tampons and that they had to learn it from their friends. I encourage you to tell your precious girlie about her body and its development. My daughter and I talk about it often and because we do, it isn’t weird. I was blessed with horrible periods, sometimes PMS, heavy bleeding, and cramps. My daughter and my son know about periods because of it. Use your own menstrual cycle to start the conversation. When you are on your period, talk about it. Leave a tampon on the counter to help ignite a conversation. My dog helped me initiate the period conversation when he took a used tampon out of the trash and dragged it to his bed!!
TIP: Talk about your period with your daughter when you are on yours. Think like a scientist when you talk about it.
Posted by Amy in Sex Education