Make no mistake that incredible, involved, intentional dads produce confident daughters. Today’s culture entices girls to grow up too fast and our little dollies are stumbling upon challenges for which they are totally untrained and unprepared. Eating disorders are on the rise at alarming rates and girls as the age of 10 are dieting, some as early at five or six years old! Pop culture is warping girls on how to dress and treat boys. Brazen girls are sexting boys in junior high pictures of themselves topless or bottomless! What about television, the Internet, music, radio, advertising?? Today, if you haven’t had sex or plastic surgery by the time you are 21, you are a loser. Our society is at war with good parents who are trying desperately to protect their kids from the damaging, destructive, detrimental world around them. Because of parents who are overworked, distracted, exhausted, and uninvolved, the lives of our future families are in the balance! Who can fix this?? D-A-D, that’s who! A daughter’s self worth specifically depends on a caring and affirming father. Girls never take their dads for granted. “They hopelessly wait for dad’s attention and some wait in frustration and others in despair.”(Dr. Meeker, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters). Fathers have the ability to change the course of their daughter’s lives and can even save them. And get this, her future sex life and whether she can fully trust her husband in the bedroom comes from the confidence she received from a dad who played a crucial role in helping her stay pure.
The best advice I have read is simply this….”Work at building your daughter’s self-concept throughout her childhood. Tell she is pretty every chance you get. Hug her. Compliment her admirable traits. Build her confidence by giving her your time and attention. Defend her when she is struggling. And let her know that she has a place in your heart that is reserved only for her. She will never forget it.” (Dr. Dobson, Bringing Up Girls).
Because good parenting almost always requires sacrifice, a good dad will forfeit the game on TV to have a tea party with his daughter. He might make his run 30 minutes instead of 45 just so he can help his girl learn to ride her bike. He might even take a job that offers less money but gives him more time with his kids. He will stop his yard work to wipe her tears and put a bandaid on her owie. Treat your daughter like a lady with respect and honor. Be modest around her and encourage her to be modest in her dress. I had a wonderful dad and on my wedding day just before he walked me down the aisle, with tears in his eyes, he told me, “It’s not too late to run. My car is parked right outside.” Happy Father’s Day to all the dads out there!!
Note: Some of the information in this post comes from the book Bringing Up Girls by Dr. James Dobson
TIP: If you have a daughter, encourage your husband to read this post. And act on it.
Thank you to my amazing husband for loving me and our girl and to the best grandpa out there!
Posted by Amy in Abstinence and Sex Education