Chivalry Is Not Dead….Yet

original-logos-2016-Apr-6009-570bf016c0995I had an awesome anatomy professor who told us on our first day of class how much money it would cost to make a human being from scratch.  We are made up of 10 body systems all perfectly fitted together to perform everything we need. Miraculously,  it all works together even when we are unconscious to the tune of over a trillion dollars and that’s just the ingredients, not including the cost to assemble!!  Human beings are priceless!  Moreover, a woman’s body is even more complicated as it was designed to grow and sustain another life.  Magnificently woven in a woman’s body, children are formed, nourished, and finally birthed.  Even then, a woman’s body has the capability to nourish her baby for months.  Without women, our population won’t increase.  The human race depends on women and yet, women are marginalized, objectified, and traded as if they were property.  Slavery is real.  Human trafficking is real. Exploitation is real. Some 20-30 million people worldwide are stuck in slavery including  the sexual slave trade.  Colorado ranks in the top 3 for the movement of trafficking.  In fact,  there was a bust of a sexual trafficking cell just two miles from the high school I taught at for years.  Once in the trafficking circle, the average life span is 7 years.  Woman die of STDS, suicide, and drug overdose.  Have a conversation with your teens on this issue maybe even middle schooler if appropriate. Tragically, this is the world ours kids are growing up in, a world of sexual profiteering—from pornography that is just a click away to sexual trafficking that may not be as far away as you think. Start raising sons that respect women.  On a practical side, don’t let brothers younger or older hit sisters, teach your son to open doors, carry groceries, work around the house, and talk respectfully to women–at the grocery store, neighbors, teachers, family members.  Bring back the Ms, and Mrs. when addressing female adults.   I went to Cheyenne Frontier Days in Cheyenne, Wyoming with some girlfriends this summer.  It’s an event full of rodeos, cowboys, Native American heritage dances, vendors, Thunderbirds, and all things COWBOY.  When we arrived at our hotel, my arms were full of my luggage; a cowboy in the parking lot quickly ran to the doorway and said, “Maam, let me get the door for you.” I responded with, “Thank you.  I guess chivalry is not dead.”  He said, “No, Maam, not if have anything to do with it.”   I am thankful for men like that…men who honor, respect, and treat women kindly  just for being women.  But I think it’s trained AND taught, NOT caught.  Train your sons while they are still young.  Don’t make chivalry dead in your home.

TIP: Take your high school kids to see the move Priceless.  It’s a movie about sex trafficking here in the US inspired by  real stories.  Then, use the movie to start some conversations with your kids.  Check out the National Center on Sexual Exploitation at  http://endsexualexploitation.org

Be Careful Little Feet Where You Go

tentacles and sternum pictureMy son and I often exercise together.  While I run, he rides his bike next to me but mostly ahead of me since I lack stellar speed these days.  Recently, we ran to a park a half mile from our house where we saw a couple of people who were living out of their cars.  I will admit, I was a little shocked to see it right in my hood, but I don’t assume that all people living out of their cars are dangerous so I wasn’t too worried.  However, it did spark a conversation on stranger danger.  I asked my boy all the usual questions like, “What if some one told you they had puppies in their car, would you follow them?” Or, “What if some one offered you candy if you followed them to their car?” Or, “What if a lady asked you to help her at her car?” Then I got real specific and asked, “What if some one you didn’t know told you that you had to go with them or they would hurt your mom or your sister; would you go?”  That finally stumped him.  Fiercely loyal, he said he would go if it meant that I was safe.  I proceeded to tell him  NOT to follow anyone that he didn’t know even if they threatened him with a lie.  And since we were on topic of safety, we talked about men’s bathrooms since he can’t come with me anymore.  I reminded him to tell me if he had any weird experiences in a public bathroom.  I also reminded him that most people will be nice, but there are a few exceptions.    I trek downtown every week and I see signs that read, “Prevent crimes of opportunity, lock your car.”  Having regular conversations with your kids about stranger danger or other topics like pornography, inappropriate touching, drugs, or alcohol can prevent crimes of opportunity with kids.  We need to train up confident, competent, and assertive kids so that if a dastardly opportunity knocks, they know how to sprint!

TIP:  This week, talk to your kids about stranger danger while you are on a walk.  It’s more natural when you bring up these conversations while you are doing an activity.  Review bathroom logistics when you are at the store.  Dialogue with your kids while you are in the car too.  We have the best conversations in the car!

Bunny Hunting

bunnyIf you have a child ages 10-13, with a cell phone, then listen up!  There is a new heinous phenomenon that perverts and perpetrators are up to and it’s called Bunny Hunting.  I will just get right to it.  No need to beat around the bush or sugar coat this.  You need this information.  Kids who get cell phones at this age are generally unaware of the capabilities of their devices.  Often their devices, particularly phones, come with GPS systems already in place.  Since most kids are ignorant to perpetrators anyway, many don’t think about on-line perverts. Once kids get a phone, their next step is social media…instagram, facebook, pinterest , twitter…and all matters of online gaming and GPS gaming like PokemonGo.  Perps have figured out that these kids, called “bunnies”, are uninformed and ignorant to the ways of online perpetration so they find these new social media users  and start-up conversations or on-line games with them, often disguising themselves as the same age as the kids.   Slyly, they coerce  kids into telling them locations of schools or other places that the kids hang out.  Yup. You guessed it.  The perverts show up to those locations. So if your tween is on social media, and especially sharing their locations, then please have a conversation with them about  the danger of on-line perpetration.  Perversion does NOT lack creativity.  Several months ago I shared a story of a friend of mine, whose nearly had her daughter swiped at a local grocery store only three miles from my house and I live in one of the safest neighborhoods around.  So imagine how easy it is to find kids on-line and start a conversation.  As handy as our devices are, they can be tools for destruction as well.  Exercise wisdom and teach your kids that their device comes with major responsibility and then make sure they are ready for that responsibility.

TIP: Get informed about bunny hunting and then make sure your kids, who have fancy schmancy phones are aware of it too.

Posted by Amy in Pornography

The Importance of Consistency

cropped-tulips.jpgThe average kids eats 21 meals a week plus snacks, but how much are we nourishing our children’s spirits?  Don’t you think we need a few spiritual meals a week too?  We are going to have some hard conversations with our kids in life.  We need to be making deposits into their “love tanks” so that when we need to make a few hard withdrawls, there is something in the tank.  How do we fill our kids tanks?  We fill their spiritual tanks by taking them church regularly.  Having devotional time with them.  Listening to quality music with lyrics that nurture the spirit. Our kids need to be involved in church too, whether it be youth group, volunteering in a Sunday school class, or going to Sunday school or just sitting with you in a service. Talk to your kids about the Lord regularly.  Pray with them and over them so they can hear you pray too.  Teach them to pray even if it means starting off with memorized prayers.  Make church and family time a priority.  Since we are beings that are more than just a body, we need to nourish our other components too.  We are made up of a spirit (that is the part that can commune with God),  but also a soul, which is our mind, our will, and our emotions.  Other posts have touched on the body and soul, but this post is designed to remind you of your child’s spirit.  I don’t remember every sermon or Bible study that I have completed, nor do I remember all the meals I have eaten.  Tragically, I can’t remember what I ate yesterday but I know my body received sustenance.  The same is for our kids.  Their spirits need filled and it doesn’t matter if they remember everything they learned, their spirits will have received nourishment.    It is never to late to start going to church, never too late to start reading to them from the Bible.  Consistency is modeled and taught.  Lay a foundation so that when you need to have a hard conversation on purity, or lying, or pornography, you have something in the tank.

TIP:  It’s time for some spiritual nourishment for your children.  Make time for it.

Posted by AMY in Abstinence and Sex Education