I am attempting to get back in shape. I could say that I have not had time to run but the truth of the matter is that I have not MADE time to run. We might have to MAKE time to talk to our kids. Recently, I had my daughter tag along on her scooter while I ran. (Let’s be honest; it was more of a jog.) Since she has begun a new phase of womanhood in her life, I decided that it was time to find out about where she is with boys on account of all those extra hormones kicking in and all. I don’t really know if she even notices them yet but I decided it was time to explore the topic. Now since she was scootering and I was jogging, we didn’t have to look each other in the eye so that helps to take any awkwardness out. I like to keep the conversation pretty simple and comfortable so I just asked, “Do you have any friends who are into boys yet?” So we talked about the people who were and were not and then I finally asked if she liked any boys. Happy with her answer, I moved on to another topic. That was it. Short and sweet and it let me know where she is and what to be aware of for future conversations. A wise friend always reminds me to be on the look out for “what’s next” in my kid’s sexuality. Once your kids start having body odor and growing armpit hair, it’s time to think about a hygiene conversation. If you have girls, start noticing if they have breast buds and then start wearing sports bras and be thinking how you will prep her for a period. Stay ahead of the game. (See my last post).
An easy way into conversation with your kids is to ask about their friends. “Have any of your friends started their periods?” Have any of your friends tried drugs?” Are any of your friends talking about sex?” “What do your friends think about….” I think this works because it makes the conversation feel objective rather than subjective. I want to honor you in you might want to approach the topic of sexuality with your kids but if you need some help or some help starting the conversation, I am speaking this week to moms and girls 3rd grade -6th grade on the topic of “Your Changing Vessel”. Join me on WEDNESDAY, MARCH 15th at 6:30-8. We will be talking about physical development. There won’t be any “sex-ed” teaching. I will begin with body odor and end with a general summary of what menstruation is. Using the words, “BY GOD’s DESIGN”, we will talk about the beginning stages of adolescence, we will mention that anything that their swim suit covers is off-limits to others and what to do if some one touches them, and briefly discuss inappropriate pictures and what to do if they see one. I want to help you start conversations with your daughter. Parents are still the #1 force in their child’s life and I want you to be that force. I will be speaking at Faith Bible Chapel in the Atrium on the West Campus. 6250 Wright Street Arvada, CO. You are welcome to attend this free event. A friend of mine started an amazing girls club at my church on Wednesday nights. I will be presenting at their regular club time. There will be lots of moms and daughters present so come join in the fun! Also, I will be speaking at the same location on Tuesday, March 21st (from 6:30-8), on how to talk to your kids about pornography, the two sides of their brain, transgender, and same gender attraction. This event is free and for parents only.
Let’s get the conversations rolling!
Posted by AMY in Sex Education
Note: I first learned of the term “By GOD’s Design” from Mary Flo Ridley in her book Simple Truths. I just loved that phrase so I now I use it too, giving her full credit. You can find her at http://www.maryflo.org or http://www.JustSayYes.org I incorporate my Biology background, 20 years of teaching experience, and God’s Word into my presentations.