Lavish Love

I don’t do New Year’s resolutions.  I don’t do New Years goals.  I don’t have a bucket list.  Sheesh, I barely have a grocery list.  I keep trying the grocery app on my phone, but here is the problem: I think of an item. Then I have to go find my phone.  However, between my phone and I are countless  distractions including the homeschooling child and the teenage girl,  so by the time I actually retrieve my phone, I have forgotten whatever the item was that I was going to put on the grocery app.

I have a refrigerator in my kitchen, and I have one  in my basement.  Sometimes I walk down the stairs; open the door of the  basement refrigerator and I forget what I was looking for. So I have to go back up the stairs, open the kitchen refrigerator….stare inside and hope that it jogs my memory of why I went to the other refrigerator!

These are ridiculous first world problems, but can you relate?  I wish I could blame it on my mommy brain, but I only have two kids and they are older.  I think my mom brain is full.  So full that I can’t remember what to write on my grocery list or why I went to my basement refrigerator.   Maybe I just need to SLOW down this year.  Start my day by talking to God and reading the Word.   Maybe the first words out of my mouth to my kids each day ought to be words of admiration, delight, abundant love.  Perhaps I need to offer tender affirmation and just be more mentally present.   “See what great love the Father has LAVISHED on us that we should be called the sons of God.” (I John 3:7)  Everyone seems to be posting their word for 2020.  Maybe I will pick one too …LAVISH.. abundance…to pour down profusely.  What if I lavished love on the people I come in contact with…my husband, my kids,  their friends, my friends.  I don’t need to get God’s attention by doing good things….He already NOTICES and LAVISHES love on me.  Who am I taking the time to notice?   I think I want my kids to feel that way…they don’t need to do good things for me to notice them.  I notice them because they are mine.  My mailman is John.  Last year I took the time to notice John.  I even ran into him at Wendy’s and we talked.  I asked him if anyone knew his name.  He said very few people have stopped to ask him his name.   Isn’t that sad?  Maybe we  start noticing people and lavishing them with friendly words and simple kindness.

LAVISH.  The Father has LAVISHED his love on me just because.  “He rejoices over me with singing.” (Zeph 3:17)  The same is for you and for your kiddos.  God LAVISHES his love on you and your kids….for no reason other than He just loves you. (After all the Bible says that GOD IS LOVE) I educate my kids, but in the end, if they don’t feel my love or have love for others, I kinda wasted my time.  They could know their math facts, whip out five paragraph essays, draw the world from memory, pass calculus, chemistry, and biology with flying colors, but if they “have not love” then what’s the point? So I ought to SLOW DOWN, notice them,  speak life… and model kindness… and lavish love on them….. just like it has been lavished on me.